(In)Secure: How Our Actions Can Inform Us of Where We Really Operate From

"Insecure" is more than a hit comedy series; frankly, if we are honest, insecurity is a mixed-mode, state-of-mind we live in and operate out of. We're confident and determined, amazed and full of fear. We say we are "fine" and "good," yet apparently not good enough to sit with, wrestle, and process our current state. We say we are open, yet we are stuck in our ways and unable to vocalize why. We're not fixed; we're clingy, ungrounded, and unstable- hanging on to the latest, strongest passing thought. We're honest and still we lie. In the middle of it all, we are scared. And sometimes we are all of these things simultaneously. On mature days, we say conflicted. The Bible calls it double-minded. And it is a very fitting descriptor for your use and mine :). Whatever we are going through, as long as you have breath, the forecast is: hopeful.

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I am no psychologist or therapist, but I would argue this group of professionals knows what we are afraid to admit: most of us are insecure about one thing or a multitude of others: our looks, our accomplishments or failures, our ability or inability, our hurts, our health and pains, our visibility (or lack thereof). We carry shame. Each of us carries a different set of insecurities. Part of the solution? We find those that will be willing to sit in and with us in whatever particular combination of stressors we embody and are willing to own up to.

What insecurities are you operating from? Here is one I recently came across. Most people perceive me as brave, but I am not as courageous as the cowboy I play on whatever episode you see me in. I default to action, particularly in the face of inaction (perceived and real). Even some of our natural patterns can lead us to better understand the insecurities we operate out of. It's true. And that is probably true for you too. Let that sink in. I have had a couple conversations recently that forced me to be honest and vulnerable: "Are we friends?" "Share with me that poem you wrote." "What is blocking your acceptance?" Underneath the responses to all of those: insecurity.

We are all looking for a place to know and be known. And both of those things are met in Jesus. We're not just known and accepted, we're liked and loved- insecurities fully known. God knows it all and is frequently waiting for us to catch-up.

What environmental beliefs did your upbringing expose you to? How did it condition you? What were the milestones? How did you slalom and course through the series of straights, switchbacks, chicanes, and sweepers? Do you have a sense of understanding who you were? Became? Where did you crash? Where are the skid marks? Now is time for the investigative walkthrough.

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